In an era where comfort and convenience are often prioritized, doing something we don’t want to do every day seems counterintuitive, if not outright difficult. Nonetheless, embracing this practice can prove transformative, instilling discipline, enhancing resilience, and fostering personal growth.
The Theory of Habit Formation and the Brain
Habit formation is a central part of human psychology. According to a study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, it takes an average of 66 days for a behavior to become automatic or habitual (Lally et al., 2010). This process involves the gradual shift of the action from the prefrontal cortex, the area of the brain responsible for decision-making and self-control, to the basal ganglia, which manages routine behaviors.
Performing an unwanted task daily can facilitate this transition, making the action part of your routine and decreasing the emotional and mental resistance associated with it.
Overcoming Resistance
Steven Pressfield, in his book “The War of Art,” discusses the concept of “resistance” as a force that prevents us from doing what we ought to do. He suggests that the key to overcoming resistance is “turning pro,” i.e., showing up and doing the work, even when we don’t feel like it (Pressfield, 2002).
Applying this to the daily task you’re resisting, the more you engage in it, the more you ‘normalize’ the behavior and reduce the emotional discomfort associated with it. This approach aligns with exposure therapy in psychology, which involves confronting and gradually becoming accustomed to something that causes fear or anxiety (Craske, 2019).
Cultivating Discipline and Resilience
Adopting a habit of doing something you don’t want to do every day is a powerful way to develop discipline and resilience. Discipline is about making choices that align with your long-term goals, despite short-term discomfort. Meanwhile, resilience is your ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions. By consistently overcoming resistance, you become more adept at facing challenges and bouncing back from setbacks.
The Benefits
This practice can have profound benefits. It can increase your productivity by eliminating procrastination and enhancing focus. It can foster personal growth by pushing you out of your comfort zone and encouraging you to take on new challenges. Moreover, it can enhance your self-esteem and confidence as you witness your capacity to overcome difficulties and achieve goals.
Conclusion
While the idea of doing something we don’t want to do every day may seem daunting, the rewards are substantial. By embracing discomfort and overcoming resistance, we can cultivate discipline, enhance resilience, and foster personal growth.
References
- Lally, P., Van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W., & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009.
- Pressfield, S. (2002). The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles. Black Irish Entertainment LLC.
- Craske, M. G. (2019). Exposure Therapy and CBT for Anxiety and Fear: From Principle to Practice. The Guildford Press.
