In the modern world inundated with images of perfect lives and superhero personas, it is easy to forget that real contentment and happiness lie within our own selves. The pursuit of happiness, a fundamental human endeavor, has often been linked to external factors. However, various studies and ancient philosophies suggest that true happiness springs from within and is a choice that individuals can make for themselves.
The External Illusion
Social media is rife with people idolizing celebrities, superheroes, and successful individuals. People tend to create mental benchmarks based on these external ideals. In comic books and movies, superheroes are often depicted as beings possessing incredible abilities, fighting evil, and saving the world. However, it is essential to recognize that these characters are fictional and that real-life heroes and role models have their own set of challenges and imperfections.
Moreover, social comparison theory posits that individuals determine their own social and personal worth based on how they stack up against others. This comparison often leads to a sense of inadequacy and unhappiness (Festinger, 1954).
The Internal Wellspring
Contrary to the external locus of control, ancient philosophies like Stoicism and Buddhism have long propagated the belief that happiness is an internal state. Stoicism, for example, teaches that contentment comes from understanding and accepting the things we cannot control and focusing on our responses which we can control (Epictetus, Enchiridion).
Similarly, Buddhism believes that true happiness comes from within, through the understanding and cultivation of one’s mind and emotions (The Dhammapada).
Happiness as a Choice
Research in positive psychology also suggests that happiness is, to a significant extent, a choice that individuals can make. According to Lyubomirsky, Sheldon, and Schkade (2005), 40% of a person’s capacity for happiness is within their power to change through personal choices, including cultivating gratitude, practicing kindness, and nurturing relationships.
Being Your Own Superhero
Rather than striving to be like others, it is more fulfilling to become the best version of oneself – a “super self”. To accomplish this, individuals must recognize and harness their unique talents, accept their imperfections, and make choices that align with their values and passions.
Self-determination theory, developed by Deci and Ryan, highlights the importance of autonomy, competence, and relatedness in achieving well-being and contentment. When individuals pursue goals that are deeply aligned with their values, they experience a higher sense of satisfaction and happiness (Deci & Ryan, 2000).
Conclusion
In the cacophony of modern life, it is easy to lose sight of where true happiness lies. While it is human nature to admire and idolize others, understanding that real contentment is an internal state and a choice can be liberating. By focusing on personal growth, accepting imperfections, and making choices that resonate with one’s values, individuals can unleash their “super self” and find enduring happiness from within.
References:
- Festinger, L. (1954). A theory of social comparison processes. Human Relations, 7, 117-140.
- Epictetus. (c. 135 A.D.). Enchiridion.
- Lyubomirsky, S., Sheldon, K. M., & Schkade, D. (2005). Pursuing happiness: The architecture of sustainable change. Review of General Psychology, 9(2), 111–131.
- The Dhammapada. (c. 3rd century BCE).