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True Ownership: Influencing Understanding over Making Demands

In the vast landscape of human interaction, there is an unspoken truth: while many of us yearn for others to grasp our needs intuitively, true ownership lies not in these expectations but in our own capacity to educate and influence.

Tim Ferris, in his bestselling book “Tools of Titans,” presents a myriad of tactics, routines, and habits from world-class performers. Amongst the golden nuggets, a recurring theme emerges: the importance of effective communication. Ferris’s interactions with numerous guests underline a shared belief – expecting people to understand outright is a fallacy. Instead, it’s about relaying information in a manner they can resonate with.

A profound realization many undergo during self-reflection is the idea that when we harbor anger or resentment towards something, we are often, in reality, frustrated with ourselves. This anger is an indicator that there’s an aspect of our being – whether it’s our skills, strength, or mental state – that requires attention and nurturing. By recognizing this, we unlock an opportunity for growth and transformation.

Di Tran, in his soon-to-be-released book “Drop the FEAR and focus on the FAITH,” aptly argues, “it is my job to explain to others and my responsibility to simplify and my win to win the heart of others.” This powerful statement encapsulates the essence of leadership and influence. Rather than pointing fingers at those who don’t understand, it challenges us to take responsibility for bridging the comprehension gap.

By embracing this philosophy, we not only create a more harmonious environment but also strengthen our relationships, be it in our personal lives or at work. When you make it a mission to aid understanding, you’re no longer simply making a request; you’re forging a connection, and in many cases, establishing trust.

As we navigate our daily lives, the onus falls upon us to ensure our message is heard, understood, and appreciated. In doing so, we extend a hand of collaboration instead of a fist of demand, thereby leading with empathy and genuine ownership.

As a takeaway, begin your mornings with these affirmations, aligning with the ethos of educating and influencing:

  1. “Today, I will lead with empathy, striving to make myself understood and to understand others.”
  2. “It’s my responsibility to communicate my needs clearly and patiently.”
  3. “Every interaction is an opportunity to connect, influence, and build trust.”
  4. “By simplifying my message, I make it accessible and relatable to all.”
  5. “Winning hearts is a testament to true ownership and influence; today, I commit to this journey.”
  6. “When frustration emerges, I will reflect inward and seek growth in strength, skills, and mindset.”

In the end, true ownership is about building bridges, not walls. As we aim to influence, may we always prioritize understanding and connection above all else, and in moments of anger, let it be a mirror reflecting areas we can uplift and evolve.

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Coping Strategies for Dealing with Traffic Jams

During a traffic jam, people may have a variety of thoughts depending on their individual personalities, moods, and circumstances. Here are some common thoughts that people may have:

  1. Frustration: Many people feel frustrated during traffic jams. They may be angry that they are stuck in traffic and cannot move forward. They may also feel annoyed at other drivers who are not following traffic rules.
  2. Impatience: Some people may feel impatient during traffic jams. They may want to get to their destination quickly and may feel that the traffic is delaying them.
  3. Boredom: Traffic jams can be long and tedious, and people may feel bored during this time. They may wish they had something to do, such as read a book, listen to music or podcasts, or catch up on work emails.
  4. Stress: Traffic jams can be stressful, especially if people are running late for an important appointment or meeting. They may feel anxious and worried about the consequences of being late.
  5. Reflection: Some people may use the time stuck in traffic to reflect on their life, relationships, and work. They may think about their goals, dreams, and aspirations, or reflect on their past experiences.
  6. Daydreaming: Traffic jams can also provide a moment of respite from the hectic pace of life. Some people may use the time to daydream and let their mind wander.
  7. Planning: Others may use the time to plan their day or week ahead, mentally prioritizing their tasks and making to-do lists.

Overall, people’s thoughts during a traffic jam can vary widely, depending on their individual circumstances and mindset.

Help yourself

Being stuck in traffic can be frustrating, but there are some things that people can do to make the best of the situation. Here are some ideas:

  1. Listen to music or podcasts: This is a great way to pass the time and keep your mind occupied while you’re stuck in traffic. You can create a playlist of your favorite songs or find interesting podcasts to listen to.
  2. Call a friend or family member: Use the time stuck in traffic to catch up with a friend or family member on the phone. This can be a great way to pass the time and make the most of a frustrating situation.
  3. Practice deep breathing or meditation: If you’re feeling stressed or anxious, try practicing deep breathing or meditation to help calm your mind and reduce your stress levels.
  4. Plan your day or week: Use the time stuck in traffic to plan your day or week ahead. This can help you feel more organized and in control, and may even help you feel less stressed.
  5. Take a break from technology: Use the time stuck in traffic as an opportunity to unplug and disconnect from your devices. This can help you feel more present and mindful, and may even help you feel less stressed.
  6. Stay hydrated: Be sure to bring a water bottle with you and stay hydrated while you’re stuck in traffic. This can help you feel more alert and energized, and may even help reduce stress levels.

Remember, the best thing you can do during a traffic jam is to stay calm and patient. While it can be frustrating to be stuck in traffic, getting upset or angry won’t make the situation any better. Instead, focus on making the best of the situation and finding ways to stay calm and occupied while you wait for the traffic to clear.

Di Tran’s solution for himself

Self-affirmation and meditation can both be great ways to cope with the frustration and stress of being stuck in traffic.

Self-affirmation involves reminding yourself of your positive qualities and accomplishments, and can help boost your self-esteem and confidence. You can use this time to think about your strengths, your achievements, and your goals, and remind yourself that you are capable of handling whatever challenges come your way.

Meditation, on the other hand, involves focusing your mind on the present moment and allowing your thoughts to pass without judgment. It can help calm your mind and reduce stress and anxiety. There are many different meditation techniques you can try, such as deep breathing, visualization, or repeating a mantra or phrase.

Combining self-affirmation with meditation can be especially effective. You can use positive affirmations as a mantra during your meditation practice, repeating phrases like “I am capable,” “I am strong,” or “I am calm and centered.” This can help reinforce positive thoughts and feelings, and cultivate a sense of calm and inner peace.

Overall, self-affirmation and meditation can be great tools for coping with the frustration and stress of being stuck in traffic. They can help you stay focused, centered, and positive, even in challenging situations.

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From Frustration to Resilience: An Immigrant’s Journey Through NewComer Academy

Being an immigrant and a no-English immigrant young adult through school and life is not an easy journey. But as I reflect on my experience, I realize that it helped toughen me up and shaped me into the person I am today.

As a no-English immigrant, I remember the frustration and isolation of not being able to communicate with others. It was a difficult experience, but it taught me resilience and the importance of hard work. I had to work twice as hard as my peers to learn the language and keep up with my studies.

But as time passed, I began to see the benefits of being bilingual. I could speak to my family in their native language and also communicate with a wider range of people. I realized that being an immigrant and learning a new language gave me a unique perspective that others didn’t have.

Throughout my journey, I encountered many challenges, but I also received support from teachers and mentors who believed in me. They provided me with the guidance and resources I needed to succeed, and I am forever grateful for their kindness.

As I moved through school and into my adult life, I faced new challenges, such as navigating the complexities of the immigration system and overcoming stereotypes and discrimination. But through it all, I remained resilient and determined to achieve my goals.

Today, as a successful professional, I recognize that being an immigrant and a no-English immigrant young adult has made me stronger and more adaptable. I have learned to embrace diversity and appreciate the beauty of different cultures. I am proud of my journey and the person I have become.

Being an immigrant and a no-English immigrant young adult is not an easy journey, but it can be a rewarding one. It teaches resilience, hard work, and the importance of community support. To all the young immigrants out there, know that you are not alone and that your journey can lead to great success and personal growth.

Di Tran’s reflection as a visitor and presenter at NewComer school

As I walked through the building and presented to different classes of students, I saw myself in every single one of them. I remembered the frustration and isolation of not being able to communicate, but I also felt confident and shared that confidence with the students. I knew that they could achieve their dreams, just as I had become a successful serial business owner and IT professional with multiple degrees.

I want to thank the teachers of JCPS, especially all ESL teachers, for their dedication and hard work in changing the lives of these young immigrants. They provide critical support and resources to these students, helping them overcome language barriers and succeed in their new home.

To all young immigrants out there, know that you are not alone. Embrace your uniqueness and believe in yourself. With hard work, determination, and community support, anything is possible. And to the teachers and mentors who provide support and guidance to young immigrants, know that your work is invaluable and life-changing.