Tag: non-judgmental attitude

Introduction

Our perception of the world, along with the recognition, understanding, and knowledge of what we encounter, shapes our lives significantly. It is often said, “If you see it, recognize it, understand it, and know it, then do something about it. It is your responsibility.” This phrase, while insightful, isn’t without its limitations. Equally true is, “Everyone has their own limitation in seeing, understanding, comprehending, feeling, and attaching to something, then even when it’s their job, it’s not necessarily they can do something about it.”

Seeing and Recognizing: Acknowledging Problems

There’s a Buddhist teaching that says, “With our thoughts, we make the world.” This highlights the profound role our perception plays in how we encounter and interact with reality. Life is a myriad of experiences that can be seen as problems or opportunities depending on our perspective. Recognizing a problem is the first step towards solving it. As Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard once observed, “To recognize a problem is halfway to solving it.”

Understanding and Knowing: The Key to Responsibility

Understanding a problem involves empathizing with its complexity. It is where knowledge and intuition intersect. According to Swiss psychologist Carl Jung, “Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people.” Here, Jung implies that by understanding and knowing our problems, we can better handle the challenges we face. Taking responsibility becomes natural once we genuinely understand a situation.

Everyone’s Limitations: The Impediments to Action

However, as humans, we have limitations in our perception, comprehension, and the depth of our emotional attachment. This can restrict our ability to act, even when we feel responsible. This limitation isn’t a character flaw, but an inherent part of our human condition. As American author Harper Lee famously wrote in ‘To Kill a Mockingbird’, “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” This underlines the importance of empathy in acknowledging others’ limitations.

Non-judgment and Personal Responsibility: Towards a Better Self and Society

As we navigate life’s challenges, being non-judgmental towards others and holding ourselves to high standards can lead to personal growth and societal harmony. The stoic philosopher Epictetus said, “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” This principle can be applied to judgment as well, encouraging us to listen and empathize more and judge less.

On the other hand, being strict with oneself fosters resilience and personal growth. American novelist James Baldwin wrote, “Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” This suggests that we must confront our personal issues before we can hope to address them.

God’s Burden: Challenges as Pathways to Strength

In religious teachings, there is a belief that God doesn’t burden a soul beyond its capacity. In Islam, for example, this concept is explicitly mentioned in the Quran (2:286). This suggests that the challenges we face are proportionate to our capability to bear them and are meant to strengthen us, not others.

Conclusion: The Metaphor of Sand in the Eye

In essence, we need to stop worrying about the sand in others’ eyes and instead focus on our own. This metaphor, which is a variation of a saying from the Bible (Matthew 7:3), reminds us to focus on our issues before we scrutinize others. As we strive to navigate life’s challenges, let us be aware of our perceptions, take responsibility, respect our limitations,